And the date is confirmed….
December 15 has a lot of memories. After this year it will be the anniversary of my mastectomy WITH reconstruction. Prior to this year, it has been ingrained as the date of my mothers birth. To me, this is just pure irony. Honestly, the only thing that could be more ironic would be if the surgery date was scheduled for June 8- the anniversary of my mothers death but I don’t think I could even handle that one. My mother has been gone for so long now that it is not that I have forgotten her birthday it’s just that the date didn’t really come to mind.

I knew I was going to have to have my surgery around that time period because of my vacation schedule and to be quite frank, I really wanted the 17th which is a Friday. I actually could have had the 17th but it was my husband who convinced me the 15th was better. By doing it on the Wednesday I would be able to have both of my doctors check me out. If I did it on the Friday, neither of them would be there over the weekend to check on me and he didn’t seem to think that was okay. So, the 15th it was. It wasn’t until I got home that I was like, “wow….happy birthday, mom.”

In her honor

I have grown up always saying to myself, “my mom would be proud,” and while I think she would think this just plain sucks (that I have to go through this, I mean), I know she would be proud of me. So, with that said, why not honor her on her birthday?! It’s not like I can take her out to lunch, or go shopping with her….but what I can do is go through this surgery and say:

“Thank you mom. If it wasn’t for you I wouldn’t know that I carry this mutation and because I you, I am able to save my life. Happy birthday. I will always love you. XOXO”

I don’t know… I don’t think that’s such a bad birthday gift in her memory. =)

So excited!

I am still 3 plus months away and I am in my excited phase. Not too many questions have come up but as we move closer I know more things will come across my mind and I will need to schedule additional appointments, etc. For now, I am just for happy with my team (Dr. Spear-PS, Dr. Willey-BS, and the Georgetown team). I am so happy I will be 15minutes from home surrounded by friends and family and that I get to have the one-step that I so wanted to have.



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9 responses to “CONFIRMED: DEC 15, 2010

  1. Sarah Hartley

    Very nice, Allison! Your mom is proud. XO

  2. Allison- you mother would be so proud and thank you for sharing. Dates are so funny- they are all important in some way, but the big things in life always seem to clump together. I had my final surgery on my 30th b-day and to me it signified a new start to my life. In addition to your mother being proud of you, I think she would also be very honored. I’m proud of you too!

  3. Allison – this is a wonderful piece, your mother is proud. I was thinking about how dates seem to get “taken up” as we go through life, gathering significance as we grow and accumulating meaning. It’s funny but I chose the date for my final preventive surgery as my 30th birthday and felt that it symbolized the start of my new life as I headed into middle age. I think you made a good choice and I am now going to have to plan a meal to bring over! Thank you for your eloquent post – you often put a lot of my feelings into words. I am proud of you.

  4. My surgery was December 18th, a date which meant nothing to me at the time but now has enormous significance. For you, your date already is important and will be even more important hereafter. It’s amazing that you will share this (re) birthday with your mother. I’m so happy for you and wish you all the best.

  5. Congratulations on being through the decision making phase. Yes this date, which has significance for all of us who choose this path, will have special significance for you. And you know that by being proactive you are defying your mother’s destiny. My mother is fortunate enough to be a survivor and I can tell you that although she was unhappy that I inherited her bad gene, she has been proud of the way I have moved forward and made decisions to protest my life. Your mom would be proud too.

    Good luck,
    January 11th will be my 4 year anniversary of my mastectomies with reconstruction and the date is indeed a milestone in my life.

  6. Katie

    That is so incredible! I think the passage you wrote to your mom is so powerful. I can’t imagine anything that would be a better tribute and honor to a parent. Dec. 15 will be my 25th birthday, and you can bet that I’ll be celebrating you and your mom on that day 🙂

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  8. Sue

    Congratulations on getting your surgery date. I was also thrilled when I finally got my date. I had my surgery on 12/10/2009–a date I will be celebrating for the rest of my life. I had the one-step procedure also and am happy with the results—I am just as happy that I did not have to have revisions. As my one year aniversary approaches I can tell you that they continue to get better all the time. My best advise is to rest, rest, and more rest. It will help a great deal in your recovery. It was hard to imagine at the 3 week mark that I would be able to return to work in 3 more weeks, but amazingly enough I did. Best of luck with your surgery!

  9. Stacey Holden

    Wow! I lost my mom 2 weeks ago to Ovarian Cancer only 19 days after her diagnosis. I found out yesterday I am BRCA 1 positive. I am pissed, scared, confused and don’t know what to do. I know for sure I am having a hysterectomy and my ovaries out (I’m 35 with 3 kids). I would love to talk to other people and see what their thoughts are on the removal and reconstruction of the breasts. I am at a loss. I am proud of you for the strength you have shown through your journey. I pray for a speedy recovery for you.

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